The saying goes, “there’s no such thing as an unselfish deed.” If I do something for someone it’s considered selfish because I felt good about helping someone. So no matter what I do for someone, I’m still being selfish. I don’t think that’s fair but who am I to argue with something that has been argued about for a very long time?
What about when I stop doing those things that make someone feel good about themselves and they start to reject me, does that mean that they have been selfish the entire time? For example, I have a friend who I helped through a hard time, and who I helped them realize their potential. Then my life got in the way which caused the time that I had for them to shorten and eventually not exist, and that person stopped texting me and treating me like a friend, was that person selfish the whole time? They even went on to say that I stopped speaking to them, but I didn’t stop speaking to them, someone more important than myself needed me.
So I came to a decision to change… I will be taking care of me now, worrying about me and focusing on me. Whoever can’t understand that and doesn’t want to stay in my life can, of course, walk away. But they must know this, just because I am not dedicating my time 100% to someone or worrying about them and what they need should know that if that causes them to walk out of my life then they were never my real friend to begin with. They were only an acquaintance using me for selfish gain and selfish reasons, because a true friend would still call, text and communicate with someone no matter what the situation. Google it!!
Im not saying that I’m never going to care about, or do selfless things for my friends and family anymore but I am saying I will be having second thoughts before doing anything that I feel is for a selfish person. (Immature people or on that list too, grow up!)
I would love to hear some personal stories and positive thoughts from everyone on the topic of selfishness and immaturity…
I’ll be alone soon but after this week I’m ready to explore, relax, enjoy and celebrate life and New York City.
